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“Being a woman should not be a disadvantage”: Nicole Kidman pens letter against domestic violence after winning an Emmy for playing an abuse survivor.

Nicole Kidman has written an open letter to survivors of domestic violence for Porter magazine in an effort to lend her voice to the struggles they face.

During her performances as Celeste, a survivor of domestic violence in the HBO series Big Little Lies, Ms. Kidman has stated that she found the role to be one of the most difficult she has ever played. “I felt very exposed and vulnerable and deeply humiliated at times…and angry inside…I would have flashes of images of women that have gone through this…”


Nicole Kidman’s letter was published in its entirety in Net-a-Porter Magazine, winter edition

For her performance, she won an Emmy for outstanding lead actress in a limited series or movie. But it is her role as a UN Ambassador working with abuse survivors which most influenced her acceptance speech and letter. In her speech, Ms. Kidman highlighted that domestic violence “is a complicated, insidious disease. It exists far more than we allow ourselves to know.”

Addressing the letter to “My 3.5 billion strong and beautiful sisters,” Ms Kidman writes, “It never occurred to me that I should be at a disadvantage because I was born a girl. The idea that women and men are equal is part of my DNA. I was raised by a strong feminist mother and a fully supportive father.”

Each of us, in ways big or small, will come across challenges, often arising out of the fact that we are women in a still unequal world.

Nicole Kidman, UNIFEM Goodwill Ambassador, at Press Conference for UNIFEM's "Say No to Violence against Women" Campaign

Ms. Kidman has been a Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women for ten years.

She continues, “My feminist roots have also led me to the UN Women and my work as its Goodwill Ambassador. It is in this role that I come to fully understand the barriers that women around the world are facing. I have focused on lending my voice to women who are survivors of violence. The stories I have heard from them have shaken me to the core and changed me forever.”

Calling upon women to support one another and explaining how crucial it is for survivors of domestic violence to “reclaim their lives”, Ms. Kidman ended her letter by underscoring the significance of women knowing that they are not alone in the challenges they face. “More than ever, I am aware of the need to support and celebrate each other. I like to believe I am part of a global support group network of 3.4 billion.”

Her letter ends with a question: “Imagine: if you can fall back on the 3.5 billion sisters, and the many good men who are with us, what could we possibly not achieve?”

Exactly. And with that thought in mind, we fight on.

If you are a survivor of domestic violence or know someone who is, please know that you can ACCESS HELP HERE.